Thursday, April 26, 2012

CAGAYAN DE ORO: A Mother's Story

I am here at Cagayan de Oro city for another task to do. To train and enhance knowledge and skills of some employee about customer service. It was actually my second time to visit this city. Aside from the main objective why I am here, another purpose was to visit famous landmarks of the city especially the St. Agustine Cathedral. I want to add this church on my collection of Century Old Churches in the Philippines. So, after I accomplished my task, I visited the church and took some images. While I am taking some photos around the church, an old candle vendor woman approached me and asked if I wanted to buy some candles. I told her that I will buy later after I finished what I am doing. After hearing what I've said, a hopeful smile was drawn on her face. She patiently waited unlike other vendors that keeps on insisting and sometimes makes you irritated. I am a soft-hearted person and I really can relate to these kind of people because I was also exposed in poverty and experienced how is it to be "less-fortunate". This made me kept my promise to the old woman.

THE CANDLE VENDOR

After I finished taking photos around the church I sat beside the candle vendor, bought some candles and began the conversation. I don't know, but there's a force within that was pushing me to know much about this old lady. Maybe because inside me was searching for something that's impossible to find, so there was the eagerness. I know it's not proper to directly asked her, so I began our conversation asking about what she knows about the church, activities during feast of St. Agustine, etc. Then I began asking about personal matters. She said she sells candles for the almost five years. A mother of two daughters who was left by her husband for another woman. Unfortunately, her daughters have shared the same fate with her. Both of them were also a single mother. And the more difficult part was when her daughters decided to  leave their children to her to work in Manila. That made her a grandparent and at the same time, mother of three children. She accepted the responsibility of raising her grandchildren in the hope of getting financial support from their mothers. But after a long period of time, no one of her daughter fulfilled the promised financial support. Later, she learned that they have again live-in partners.

Raising of three children was too difficult for her considering her "hand to mouth" situation in life. Everyday she  always thinking of what to provide on her grandchildren.  She haven't gone to school because of poverty so she cannot find a better job. Once she tried to be an all-around housemaid, but not for long because no one will take care of her grandchildren. Until she became a candle vendor. Despite of these difficulties  she never gave up. Not in her wildest imagination to abandon her wards. She was so determined to take care of the children no matter what happen. 

POSITIVE THINKING

Despite of what happened and despite being less-fortunate, the candle vendor who I didn't get the name, remains to have positive outlook in life. She still remains as a jolly person. According to her, there are some things we didn't want to happen but it happens, but it will not be the reason to gave up and be unhappy.

TWO KINDS OF MOTHERS

I thanked her for the conversation. He thanked me too for the candles i bought and I left before a tear fall down from my eyes. I learned so many lessons on that little conversation. Her story shows us the two kinds of mother. One, the mother who doesn't care for her child, a selfish one. A heartless one that can abandon her helpless child. Some make poverty a reason to abandon their children, but this in unacceptable reason. They are just selfish. They only think of themselves and their happiness. 

The other kind is like this vendor. Despite of difficulties she can never leave her children. She can sacrifice and willing to give herself for the sake of her children. A kind of mother that thinks no matter what happen will never leave her precious child. A mother that always there to protect them against any harm, Who guides them to the right way. A mother that always there in times of trouble to give a shoulder to lean on. A mother who is willing to share her happiness and sadness. A mother that will proudly say, "anak, mahal na mahal kita". 


By the way, this story reminds me of my mother too.

Happy Mother's Day!

blogcarnival

This is my entry to Pinoy Travel BloggersBlog Carnival for the month of May 2012. Theme: A Mother's Day Special hosted by Alvin Sabay of The World Beyond My Walls.

12 comments:

  1. What kin of mother would have left their children like that?
    I admire her for taking care of her ward despite the hardship

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  2. aw, this one's heart-wrenching. thank you for sharing this story.

    p.s. ang kulet ng ibon! <3

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    1. indeed ms rain, but i hope this can be an eye-opener for some mothers-to be..Thanks for viewing..

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  3. nagulat ako may lumabas ng blue bird haha ...

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  4. i got teary eyed reading through your post. i am a single mom and no matter how hard life is here in manila, i could never get myself to work abroad. i just can't live my son behind. i feel for this candle vendor. i know how hard it is to raise kids on your own... she even has grandchildren to attend to. i hope her children realizes their fault and help their mother out. god bless her, this candle vendor. i pray that she may have more strength to take care of her grandchildren unselfishly.

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    1. i'm proud of you ms gladys,though you have the opportunity for a greener pasture abroad still you chose to live along with your son. sabi nga nila, "aanhin mo ang marangyang pamumuhay kung hindi mo kapiling ang mahal mo sa buhay"...thnx for dropping by. :)

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  5. amazing story you got here joel. i do hope that life would get better for her and her family. thanks for sharing this in the blog carnival and happy mother's day to your mom! :)

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    1. Thanks vin..Im sure, blog carnival this month will be a mixed emotions.. hehe

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  6. Jo. I am so convinced with your story with the encounter of this vendor. Especially mothers who really have that selfless love to continue the feat to raise and always think of the wellness of their children.I salute this vendor. I can feel the her hardship due to poverty, because, we too also experienced on how was the feeling of being a vendor. You remind of this post to visit the place in Cagayan de Oro where we really experienced the real poverty. Some time this May, I would visit this place where I've got my first communion. This is the place where I grew up and have lot of experiences and challenges in life. :-).

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  7. I missed my late mother after reading the story...I salute to all mothers who raised their kids well despite of intricacies...Thanks for sharing the story.

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